Watching Dr. Phil and the subject is Mistresses and How they think.  Blah………….I have two emotions, one of incredulous pity and one of just plain pissed off.  I usually do not watch this show………..I feel often that Dr Phil never solves a problem!  Today the good doctor is on a serious soapbox against these women.  I think its always easy to point fingers at “guilty” people.    Am I defending these AP’S?   Yes and NO.  I understand the mindset.  The show would be better suited to the audience if there were both sides, the Cheater and AP.

I hear the usual language from these women…………sexy, exciting, emotional connection, and the big one my husband’s XAP used…….. tah dah…………..  SOUL MATE.

It is so easy to be a soulmate when you aren’t washing the dudes underwear….seriously.

You can see where I am, halfway between pity for the XAP being drawn in by the cheater, and anger that any two people could be so cruel and abusive.

Its easy to be a soul mate when you don’t have to wipe the snotty noses of my kids or make my cheaters dinner.  Did you ever hear my husband snore?  To my own personal XAP………………………………

He is not your soulmate

He isnt my soulmate anymore.

If you wanna wash his dirty underwear ……………..let me know, even if he isnt willing, I am more then willing to sign your delusional ass up for more drama!